Happy vs. Content

Posted: Monday, April 19, 2010 by Unknown in Labels: ,
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Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans." - John Lennon




  At a recent seminar that I spoke at, I had a very interesting talk with one of the attendees. In my speech that afternoon, I talked about setting goals and chasing your dreams, and then I touched briefly on the subject of “happiness.”  I referenced Abraham Lincoln’s quote, “most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be,” then spoke about finding joy in our daily lives.

After the seminar, a young man in his early twenty’s asked me an interesting question. “I liked your talk this afternoon," he said, "but how can I be happy if I haven’t reached my goals yet?” he asked.

This question is one I have heard repeated many times over the years and I believe it is really based on two separate issues…


Being Content
 verses 
Being Happy.


Do you think there is a difference between being content and being happy? Do you think you can be happy but not content?

I do!

As a child, we often equate happiness with a future date or occasion. I will be happy when I can drive, when I turn 18, when I am out of school, or when I turn 21. For most it continues through our twenties and thirties, when I find a good job, start my own business, get married. It goes on through our life, when I have children, buy a house, become successful… and so on.  Through this process of "delayed happiness," I believe you miss out on much of your life.

Personally, I was one of the worst at this. My wife Tracey would often ask when I was younger, “Lance, what’s wrong? You seem upset.”  I would then usually complain about not achieving a goal or attaining something in my life. This was certainly a trap that I fell in.

As a business owner and speaker, I believe very strongly on moving forward in your life … Physically, Spiritually, Personally, Financially, and in your job or business. I believe that life is fluid, if you are not moving forward, then you will be going backward. But if your “happiness” is permanently linked with a personal goal or destination, I believe you will miss out on most of the joys in your life.

Personally, I told this young man, I am not content where I am in my life.  I have so many plans for myself, my family, and for my business. I have committed my life to them & when I die at 110, I hope they find me with a list of my dreams, a self help book, and my 10 year business plan. While I have yet to accomplish my lofty goals, I consider myself one of the happiest people alive.

Like Abraham Lincoln, I believe that it’s a decision and you will be as happy as you decide to be. Don’t believe me? Then ask yourself this; how many people do you know that have accomplished what you are chasing after and that aren't happy with their lives? I bet you can think of a few. Now think of someone who has much less than you, but seems to be happier. Can you think of a few? I can, I met such a person just the other day in Mexico. While he and his family live on less than $10 a day, he had some great stories and never stopped smiling.

My transformation to “the happiest guy I know” was a process. 
It started when I accepted the Lord into my life when I was in my twenties. Then it progressed as I started each day giving thanks for the blessings I have received. It continues today as I pass this message of gratitude and happiness on to others. 

So chase your dreams, set your goals, and be discontent with where you are at in your life…. 

But be HAPPY!

That's my take, what's yours?

Lance






Just for laughs

Posted: Thursday, April 15, 2010 by Unknown in Labels:
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If you are like me, you probably have several Motivational posters in your home or office. Many have now flipped the coin and thrown in a little humor or sarcasm ( both of which are highly valued around here :)  
I was looking through an old file and thought I would re-post a few of my favorites here... Enjoy










     (ok, I am a Christian and going to get in trouble for this one, but you got to admit .. YMCA is pretty funny :)




My Choice.

Posted: Wednesday, April 14, 2010 by Unknown in Labels:
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I am not big on commercials and I have no intention of trying to monetize this blog ... that said, I have been very blessed by the network marketing industry and I take my hat off to all that have gone "all in" like me.

Stuck?

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"When one door closes another door opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the ones which open for us." - Alexander Graham Bell 





Reflecting

Posted: Monday, April 12, 2010 by Unknown in Labels: ,
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 The process of self reflection helps us
maintain an awareness of where you've
been and where you intend to go. 
I recommend that you read and reread
these questions regularly when you have
some quiet time to think.  After all,
reflection is the key to progression.
Remember, these questions have no right
or wrong answers.  Because asking the
right questions IS the answer.





 ( pictures from Mark & Angel Hack life blog and www.thoughtquestions.com )



Embrace Life!

Posted: Wednesday, April 7, 2010 by Unknown in Labels: , ,
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Things Money Can't Buy

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Money can do a lot of things, and I am a big fan of having more than having less... But one thing I have never done is attach my happiness or self worth to my bank account... Truth is, if you can't be happy on $40,000 a year, you won't be happy at $4,000,000 a year. 
SO here are a few things that money can't buy... 
Please feel free to add a few of your own.
Family Holding Hands
1. A First Kiss from Someone Special – The sweet rush of butterflies in your tummy when you kiss someone special for the very first time.

2. The Realization of True Love – The warm feeling you get many years after your first kiss

3. The huge smile on the face of a child when they finally "get it" as they're being taught math or reading.

4. The day you realize you married the right person. – Every day you confirm it from that day on.

5. Beauty – Because beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

6. Faith - Knowing where you come from, who you are, & where you are going.

7. True Friendship – Through thick and thin, they stood by your side. They were there when you had nothing but them.

8. Peace of Mind – It can only be acquired with an honest heart.

9. Beginner’s Eyes – You’ll never see it again for the very first time.

10. The Joy of Telling an Interesting True Story – One of the most enticing roles we lead in life is that of a storyteller. There are few things more satisfying than telling a true story that others enjoy listening to.

11. Happiness – True happiness is achieved by doing what you love and being involved in something you believe in.

12. Success – Success is simply excelling at doing what you love.

13. A Single Moment of Time – Once it’s gone, it’s gone.

14. A Baby’s Laughter – Babies don’t care about money. They care about kindness, love, and living in the moment.

15. Surprise Encounters with Long-Lost Friends – You haven’t seen them in years, and you figured you’d probably never see them again. Then suddenly, there they are standing right in front of you.

16. The Feeling of Self-Accomplishment – You set your sights on a specific goal and followed through until you achieved it. Now that’s something to celebrate!

17. The Sound of Raindrops Outside – …as you snuggle up on the couch. Few sounds are more soothing.

18. A Good, Genuine Conversation – Those moments of verbal bonding when the topic of conversation flows seamlessly and all parties involved gain as much as they put in.

19. An Unexpected Compliment – It seems like just another busy afternoon, but then someone stops you and says, “I love your shirt. That color looks great on you.”

20. The Feeling You Get When Your Idea Works – You’ve been struggling to resolve a complex problem all day, but you just can’t seem to get it right. Filled with frustration, you decide to try one last idea before calling it a night. You’ve had many ideas before that failed miserably… but this time it works.

21. Randomly Hearing Your Favorite Song – You’re stuck in bumper to bumper rush hour traffic, so you crank on a radio station for a little distraction. The opening notes to your favorite song instantly chime in.

22. Having a child ask you for advice. – You usually give it freely, but now they want to know what you know.

23. Watching a Live Blooper Unfold in Front of You – As you walk alongside a friend, she trips over her own feet, wobbles erratically, regains her balance, and then tries to play it off like nothing happened. Hilarious!

24. A Sunny Sunday Afternoon – The birds are chirping, a light breeze in blowing through your hair and the sun’s rays are warming your cheeks.

25. Being In The Right Place at The Right Time – You’re sitting in the nosebleed seats at a professional baseball game. The home team batter cranks a monstrous, game-winning home run. The ball bounces off another fan’s glove two seats in front of you and lands right in your lap.

26. The Recollection of Great Childhood Memories – Do you remember the first time you learned to ride a bike? What about wrestling with your dad? Or climbing trees with your friends?

27. Reminiscing About Old Times with Your Best Friend – Those crazy life experiences only the two of you lived through together. Like that wild 24 hour road trip to Atlanta, or that drunken night on the 3rd floor balcony of your college apartment.

28. Passion – True wealth comes naturally to those who follow their hearts. You can’t pay someone to be emotionally passionate about something. Nor can you pay them to psychologically give-up on their passions.

29. Objects of Sentimental Value – Old family photos, your great grandmother’s music box, that painting your baby brother made for you… some things are priceless.

30. The Comfort of an Old Familiar Smell – You just pulled into your parent’s driveway after being away for a long while. You smell familiarity in the air, the scent of the pine tree in the neighbor’s yard. As you head through the front door, more familiar smells consume your senses. Gosh, it feels good to be home.

31. The Hilarity of an Inside Joke – You’ll never get it unless you were there at its inception.

32. Earning the respect of people you respect. – respect is always appreciated, but when it comes from someone you respect, there is no better feeling.

33. Amazing Talents You Are Born With – Like the mind of a genius or the voice of an angel.

34. The Excitement of Making Someone Else Smile – Because her smile makes you smile back.

35. Exercising Your 5 Senses – Sight, hearing, smell, taste and touch. Each provides a gateway to rewarding personal experiences.

36. Sharing a Good Laugh with Friends and Family – Some of the most memorable moments in your life will be moments spent in laughter.

37. The Warm Coziness of Your Own Bed – No bed is more comfortable than your own.

38. Watching Wild Animals in Nature – Like a hawk gracefully soaring above the tree line, or a deer prancing across a grassy field.

39. A Home – Money can buy a house, but not a home. Because home is where the heart is.

40. Waking Up to the Smell of a Home Cooked Meal – You were still asleep, but someone special knew you’d be hungry soon.

41. The Peaceful Sound of Absolute Silence – Shhhhh…

42. Streams of Consciousness and Clarity – You’re ‘in the zone!’ Act while your mind is hot.

43. The Sound of a Light Breeze Through the Trees – It’s the sound of Mother Nature all around you.

44. The Captivating Experience of People Watching – The interesting (and sometimes foolish) things people do never ceases to please. You can’t buy this quality of entertainment.

45. Watching the Sunrise and Sunset with Your Beloved – Make time for this. It’s worth it.

46. The Sound and Sight of Ocean Waves – Another phenomenal act of Mother Nature.

47. The ‘Pump’ After a Great Workout – You feel like you can conquer the world.

48. The Blissful Act of Daydreaming – Just being… and thinking… and dreaming.

49. When She Says “I Love You” - …and you know she means it because you can read the sincerity in her eyes.

50. When an Unlikely Someone Remembers Your Birthday – A friend you haven’t seen in over a month calls you at 9AM on your birthday just to say “happy birthday.”

51. Finding Something You Thought You’d Lost Forever – You searched for it for days and finally gave up. Now, six months later, it basically appears right in front of you.

52. The Inspiration Behind Creative Works of Art – Every piece of art is priceless in the eyes of someone who can relate to it. The creative inspiration behind these works of art is no different.

53. When Your Pet Snuggles Up Next to You – It’s just soooo cute.

54. A Moment of Eye Contact with an Attractive Stranger – You’ve never seen them before, and you may never see them again. But a moment was shared.

55. A Long Hug from a Loved One – Those deep, warm hugs you wish you could nestle in forever.

56. Happily Singing at The Top of Your Lungs – Well… You know you make me wanna shout! Kick my heels up and shout! Throw my hands up and shout! Throw my head back and shout! Come on now… Shout!

57. Seeing Your Breath on a Chilly Night – A simple phenomenon that has entertained children since the beginning of mankind.

58. The Feeling of Acceptance – You’re now a part of something greater… and it feels good.

59. Watching the Clouds Form Cool Shapes – Never the same show twice.

60. Cuddling a Newborn Baby – Precious… simply precious.

61. When You Know You Can Trust Someone – You can see it in their eyes and you can feel it in your heart. They have no ulterior motive.

62. Sitting Around a Bonfire with Your Friends – One of the greatest settings for reminiscing and storytelling with those your care about.

63. Seeing Two Elderly Folks Who are Madly in Love – It’s a sight of love that has surpassed the tests of time.

64. The Beauty of a Moonlit Sky – Few simple pleasures are more satisfying than gazing up into a starry, moonlit sky.

65. The Awesomeness of Skipping Rocks Across Water – It doesn’t matter how old you get, this one never gets old.

66. Watching Lightning in the Distance – Peaceful and powerful at the same time.

67. Slow Dancing in Your Living Room - Dancing is like dreaming with your feet. -Constanze

68. Knowing She’ll Be There When You Get Back – Yes. There is stability in your life. And she’s a big part of it.

69. Watching Her Sleep – Just being with her and breathing with her.

70. The Colors of Fall – It’s Mother Nature’s artwork.

71. People Who Make You Smile Just by Thinking of Them – Wherever I am, no matter what I’m doing, just thinking of her makes me smile.

72. The Warm Touch of Your Beloved – It’s the touch no one else has.

73. The Sudden Realization of Gradual Change. Those precious instants when you suddenly observe your child is now measurably bigger, better or smarter than just before. Or at least you now see them that way.

74. Knowing that God is so awesome, that all things are possible through him.

75. Laying in the grass watching the clouds float by while you pick out the different shapes you see. ~ It's great to let that inner child out

76. Being able to be there to say goodbye to someone who is passing from this life to the next- especially when they know who they are and where they are going.

77. Llistening to your grandchild retell a family story in their own words.

78. True friendships - even after all the "layers" are removed, they are who they say they are.

79.

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 This is a re-post from another forum, most  are from Marc & Angels site, with a few of my own, and a few from my friends! What's yours???? 

LIFEBOOK FOR 2010

Posted: Monday, April 5, 2010 by Unknown in Labels: , ,
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Health: 
  • 1. Drink plenty of water
  • 2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar
  • 3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants, and eat less food that is manufactured in plants 
  • 4. Live with the 3 E's: Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy
  • 5. Make time for prayer 
  • 6. Play more games
  • 7. Read more books than you did in 2009
  • 8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day
  • 9. Sleep for 7 hours
  • 10. Take a 10-30 minutes walk every day - and while you walk, smile
Personality:
  • 11. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
  • 12. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead, invest your energy in the positive present moment 
  • 13. Don't overdo; keep your limits 
  • 14. Don't take yourself so seriously; no one else does
  • 15. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip
  • 16. Dream more while you are awake 
  • 17. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
  • 18. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
  • 19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
  • 20. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present
  • 21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you
  • 22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class, but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime. 
  • 23. Smile and laugh more 
  • 24. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
Community: 
  • 25. Call your family often
  • 26. Each day give something good to others
  • 27. Forgive everyone for everything
  • 28. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6
  • 29. Try to make at least three people smile each day
  • 30. What other people think of you is none of your business
  • 31. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your family and friends will. Stay in touch. 
Life: 
  • 32. Do the right things
  • 33. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful
  • 34. GOD heals everything
  • 35. However good or bad a situation is, it will change
  • 36. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up
  • 37. The best is yet to come
  • 38. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it
  • 39. Your Innermost is always happy. So, be happy. 

Why We’re Broke and How To Fix It.

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( The following article was found by my wife on the internet and unfortunately, I can't find the author. But I agree 100% with their opinion on Multiple income streams. Much of the stress, frustration, and financial hardships that so many people have gone through the last few years could have been avoided by increasing your options. I teach this principle daily... and you don't have to do what I do, but you do need to do something! )
Enjoy, Lance
www.lancesmith.com



Take a Hummer full of average self-made millionaires. Strand them in the desert. Strip them of their money. Take away everything they own. Rob them of their connections, their networks, their families. Ten to one they’re millionaires again in less than five years.
Can you be a millionaire in five years? As it stands right now, probably not. So what is it that’s different about John Q. Millionaire? Why can he take his kids to Euro Disney and you can’t? Because he depends on himself and the rest of the world depends on, well, the rest of the world.

We used to be self-reliant. For 40,000 years of human history, we depended on ourselves. We were part of a small network of people who helped each other out, but mainly we fixed our own clothes, cooked our own meals and traded our own chickens to make our way in this world. We were Jacks of all trades. When our roof broke, we didn’t hope we had money left on our Visa to pay a specialist to come out and fix it — we cut down a tree and went up the ladder. If the wheat crop was poor, we always had the cows. Wife took in some sewing work, husband ploughed the fields. If one thing went wrong, we didn’t cross our fingers and pray the big man down the lane would waltz in to take care of us. Sometime around the industrial revolution, we gave the responsibility of feeding our families to a bunch of old guys in suits that cost more than our car. Or horse, as the case may have been.
Rich people came in and, as part of an income diversification strategy, decided to build some factories. We started to specialize. We became widget stampers, widget joiners, widget movers. Our self-identity became one of what we did to which widgets for eight or 10 or 12 hours a day. Western culture became one of efficiency. How could we do it faster? How could we make it easier? How could we work it cheaper?

Then, on April Fools’ Day, 1913, Henry Ford added a conveyor belt to the whole process and generalism went to hell. Flash forward 95 years and we live in a world of 10-page job descriptions that itemize exactly what we do — and more importantly, what we don’t do. We put cute little comic strips in our cubicles that scream “Not my department”. We do the same thing, every day, for years at a time. Optimally, we do our one thing and one thing only more efficiently than any other person in town. And in order to ensure we have time for all of this efficiency, we have outsourced the rest of our lives to other specialists. Specialists grow our food and make our clothes and educate our children while we go be specialists for someone else. We believed we were making things easier. Instead we were handing over every tiny scrap of personal power we had left. Because in addition to making life soul-suckingly boring, this specialist employee system made us really, really vulnerable. We are totally dependent on a bunch of strangers to make sure little Madison and Jacob can keep going to Baby Salsa. We depend on everybody else standing at the conveyor belt to not screw the whole thing up, increasing company costs and decreasing employee salaries. We depend on the dude above us, the one who kissed so much ass he got off the conveyor belt, to dole out our raises and not favor the guy next to us. We depend on the marketing department to do a good job selling the stuff that comes off the conveyor belt. We depend on the guy who owns the conveyor belt to act in a fiscally responsible yet compassionate manner. We depend on the public at large to keep their own conveyor belt jobs so they can afford to buy the widgets we’re cranking out so efficiently. And if every single one of those people on whom we depend does their job the way we hope they will, we get a check every couple weeks that pays most of our bills. That’s good, right? That makes it all worth it, doesn’t it?

How The Rich Stay Rich The primary breadwinners among us hesitate to tell our spouse that the raise might not come through this year. We whisper, so the kids don’t hear, that maybe our vacation has to wait. Maybe the remodeling plan was a little ambitious. Maybe we can make do with the old Corolla. The stay-at-home wife tries to stretch the turkey to make a few more brown bag lunches, pastes on a smile and tells the little ones that Daddy’s doing the best he can. The single mom tries not to cry when she tells her kids that of course she misses them when she’s at work. She would have loved to be with them when they had chicken pox but she couldn’t afford to take the day off.

Why does this happen? Because we rely on one stream of income and construct our entire lives around the panic that it might disappear. The rich, on the other hand, have been handily avoiding this trap for years. Their golfing buddy the financial planner has been ensuring they diversify their investments so economic downturns don’t hurt them. The conveyor belt hysteria doesn’t affect them in the slightest. Our paycheck can’t even send little Aidan to hockey camp. We’ve got nothing left to invest in anything, let alone a diversified portfolio. But as the pundits so wisely explain — right after explaining that the ticket to riches is cutting back on your latte consumption — that diversification is the key to wealth, security and freedom. As in, you’re not supposed to put all your eggs in one basket. Would you put your family’s life savings in one stock? Would you put little Emma’s college fund into something you don’t understand, has no guarantees, and over which you have zero control? No? Then why are you doing it with your family’s income?

Recently, in a small town in Ontario, the area’s largest employer closed its doors. Most of the town, trained only in the art and science of making canned soup, found themselves out of work. A few thousand soup makers live in a town where nobody wants to pay them to make soup. Now all of them are going to try to find a way to apply their skill sets to other employers in the area. The competition is fierce, and their mortgages are on the line. Except there are no other major employers in the area, least of all ones that can make use of Jerry’s 12 years of mushroom chopping experience. Some of them will find jobs, sure, and good for them. But many others are going to have to reinvent themselves. Reinvention is difficult enough. Reinventing yourself, your family’s lifestyle, your social status and your skill set in an economy where everybody else is trying to do the same thing is virtually impossible. But let’s rewind the clock a few years for our favorite mushroom chopper, Jerry. Imagine if Jerry had found a few hours a week, when he wasn’t at the conveyor belt, to diversify the sources of his family’s income. Maybe he started a mushroom blog and now makes a few hundred bucks a month in affiliate income promoting the latest kitchen gadgets. Perhaps his wife picked up the knitting needles and started whipping up a few shawls and baby blanket. Maybe she found she was good at this knitting gig and started designing a few patterns in her spare time. Jerry’s family picture looks a whole lot different. Flash forward again to the present, and Jerry’s mushroom chopping job is in jeopardy. His buddies at the conveyor belt are starting to freak out, but Jerry’s little income streams have been growing and they’ve started to add up. Jerry and his family now have options. They have choices. They have leverage. They have freedom. All because Jerry and his wife decided to turn off the CSI reruns and look into diversifying their income streams. He didn’t have to make a big, loud proclamation that he was quitting his job at the plant. They didn’t have to spend a fortune on office space or new computers or ergonomic chairs. They didn’t need business cards that said, “We’re serious business owners, dammit.” They just needed to diversify. For hundreds of years, diversification has been the luxury of the rich. Now, in the wake of broad globalization and mass internet access, we have a ticket to escape from this madness. It has never been easier to connect with suppliers, clients, customers, searchers, readers, fans.

21 things to remember about life!

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  •  No one can ruin your day without YOUR permission.
  •  Most people will be about as happy, as they decide to be.
  • Others can stop you temporarily, but only you can do it permanently.
  • Whatever you are willing to put up with, is exactly what you will have.
  • Success stops when you do.
  • When your ship comes in...make sure you are willing to unload it.
  • You will never "have it all together."
  •  Life is a journey...not a destination. Enjoy the trip!
  • The biggest lie on the planet: "When I get what I want, I will be happy."
  • The best way to escape your problem is to solve it.
  • I've learned that ultimately TAKERS lose and GIVERS win.
  • Life`s precious moments don't have value, unless they are shared.
  • If you don't start, it's certain you won't arrive.
  • We often fear the thing we want the most.
  • He or she who laughs.....lasts.
  • Yesterday was the deadline for all complaints.
  • Look for opportunities...not guarantees.
  • Life is what`s coming...not what was.
  • Success is getting up one more time.
  • Now is the most interesting time of all.
  • When things go wrong....don't go with them.

    Little eyes are watching

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    A few Sundays ago, I went through my normal morning routine. Wake up the kids, fix breakfast, take a shower, then round up the family and head to church. With four women in my house, I was running late as usual. (It’s not considered disparagement against women if I am stating “facts”…. is it? Hmmm? ) Anyway, not to place the blame on my spouse or any particular child, we were about 15 minutes behind schedule.

    Once we got everyone in the car, I tried to make up a little time on the road. I am normally a good driver and try to obey the laws, but this particular morning I was in a rush.

    When I got close to my exit, I passed a car on my right, signaled, then crossed into their lane. I paused for a second, signaled again, and then continued down the ramp. I felt like I had enough space for the lane change, but the female driver of the car behind me thought differently. I received an immediate honk, then a single finger out the window at the stop light. (and no, it was not "you're #1 ) Thankfully, my kids were oblivious to the gesture.
    My wife on the other hand, witnessed the entire thing. She rolled her eyes and shook her head. “Don’t people know there are little eyes watching?” she asked.

    The car sped around me when the light turned green then took off down the road. I gave her a little space to avoid a repeat, then continued to church.

    I knew that there would only be a few parking spots left, so I went to the back lot and parked my car. As I stepped out, another car drove in from the opposite direction and parked next to me. Immediately, I recognized the driver as the girl who “saluted” me five minutes earlier. She got out of her car, said good morning to me and my family, and then headed towards the chapel.

    Didn’t have a clue did she?” asked my wife. “Nope, no idea,” I replied.

    My pastor’s message that day was about “living a Christ like life.” My first response was a quick chuckle since my “new” friend was a few rows away. Suddenly I was reminded of all the things I had done the previous weeks and months.
    I thought of the time I had lost my temper and said things Ishouldn't’ have. I was reminded of a comment that I had made that hurt a friends’ feelings. I remembered losing my patience that very morning and barking at my kids for being late. I thought of the time I asked my daughter to lie for me when the phone rang and I told her to tell them I was not home. Yes, it was a virtual movie for the next 20-30 minutes.

    I was reminded of Matthew 7:3 "Why do you stare from without at the very small particle that is in your brother's eye but do not become aware of and consider the beam of timber that is in your own eye?"


    After church I apologized to my children, then called a few friends to do the same. We must never forget, there are always little (and big) eyes watching.

    ( Archived from a previous blog of mine )

    Expecting

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    My nanny walked in our kitchen last week and approached my wife and I. “I have great news”, she said with a huge smile, “ I am pregnant!” My wife screamed, then we celebrated for a few minutes. We are so excited for her and her husband since this will be their first child. We gave her a hug, then she headed for the door.
    “I have to run” she said, “My husband and I are going crib shopping.”


    All of us that are parents know how crazy and exciting their next nine months will be. Although we may have busy lives, suddenly, our entire life is now consumed in preparation for the “future” baby. A space has to be found, floors cleaned, walls painted, and furniture purchased. All of this, for a child that won’t arrive for months. My wife and I know this first hand. With four children, we have spent at least three years of our lives “nesting”

    A couple we have mentored for the last few years came by for dinner last week. Once finished, we spent some time chatting.  They have been listening to motivational CD’s, and reading positive books for the past few months but had an interesting question for me. “We know that we are growing personally and learning new skills, but we don’t really see any opportunities in our life right now where we can apply them. What do we do”

    The truth is, everyday of our lives we have opportunities that come our way.  They may happen at your church, your school, in your neighborhood, or at your place of employment. They may be associated with a child, a spouse, or as a way to serve your community. They may be financially or in business, but they come at us daily. This is when you get the chance to apply what you have learned I told them.

    Imagine having a child, then realizing you never prepared? It would not be fatal to your baby, but I am sure we would all agree, the first few week of your child’s life would be better spent bonding, than trying to catch up with things undone.
    The same is true with leadership training and personal development. It is much better to grow as a person with no apparent opportunity, than to have an opportunity come your way and not be prepared. Most would struggle for a while or miss the opportunity all together.




    "Before everything else, getting ready is the secret to success." - Henry Ford




    “So get ready my friends. Read, listen, and grow everyday," I told them, ” It is times like these we prepare for our Destiny.”

    ( Archived from a previous blog of mine )

    Does your life “Wobble?”

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    I never could throw a football…

    Well, I could throw one, they just were never very "pretty." All my friends could throw a perfect spiral… not me. I could throw it a long way, but mine looked more like a wounded duck than a pass.

    Then one day I discovered the Nerf Vortex football. Maybe you have seen one of these.

    These are amazing! They take my imperfect throw and make them perfect. It was just in time too. My son is now old enough to notice the difference and I have an image to keep. Now I throw the ball and have confidence in my results. Thank you Nerf!

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    Most teenage boys dream of conquering the world. Simply look at the dreams and desires written in every boy’s heart: to be a hero, to be a warrior, to live a life of adventure and risk, and I was no different. I was blessed to have many of these dreams come true while still in my early 20’s. I was married to the woman of my dreams, built up a million dollar business, lived in a nice neighborhood, owned toys and nice cars, but I found myself very unhappy. You could say my life had a “wobble” in it.

    I spent the next few years of my life trying to figure it out. The world said I should be happy, but I wasn’t. Don’t get me wrong, I loved my life, my family, & my friends, but something was missing. More money didn’t help, neither did a new toy or hobby. Then one day I had a friend invite me to a church service that was being held by some of his friends. I didn’t feel like going because I had given up on the Christ “thing” when I was 17. That said, he was a good friend so I decided to join him.

    To say that day changed my life would be an absolute understatement. There were no fireworks, no out-of-body experiences, just a warm sense of peace and comfort that came over me when I accepted Christ into my life. It was “THE” missing piece for me.

    Today, I am far from perfect. I make mistakes daily and often lose my patience with people and things. But with Christ in my life, he can take all my imperfections and straiten them out and give me confidence - Thank You God!

    “I Can Do All Things Through Christ Who Strengthens Me” - Philippians 4:13

    Today I am starting this new Blog. I will be discussing topics from all aspects of life.

    I wanted my first post to start with the foundation of my life. My love for my lord and savior Jesus Christ. This you can not argue here… the rest of my random observations are fair game. :)

    I wish you all a happy Easter, as for me, I am going to go play catch with my son. He got a brand new Nerf Vortex football from the “Easter Bunny” this morning.